The perception of a wedding is a funny thing because it's viewed so differently by men and women. Women typically think of it as the beginning; a new life together. The moment they've always dreamed about. Men, however, usually approach it as the end; no more single life. But the two sexes also look for different characteristics in whom they want to see across the alter. I will attempt to explain five basic characteristics that women look for in a husband.
1. Affection - Women need a man who will show some compassion and care for them. They want a man who can be romantic and really show them how much they are loved.
2. Openness and honesty - When a relationship begins, women like trying to open a guy up and get him to express his feelings and his past. But after a while they expect it to be easier. When you lie to them it damages the trust that often can't be repaired.
3. Financial security - Most women don't want to enter a marriage without knowing that they won't be living pay check to pay check. I'm not talking about gold diggers, but a real man should be able to provide for his family.
4. Father material - Women don't want a man that they would be ashamed that their children model themselves after. Fellas, if you hate children or still act like one, take it from me, you're not hubby material.
5. Ambition - Men with goals and aspirations are more likely to end up married. If you can't be passionate about your own future how can you truly care about your marital one?
Men on the other hand, look for five completely different things in a wife.
1. Sexuality - No man wants to get married if he thinks the sex well will go dry. In order to convince your man to commit, you have to turn him on between the sheets.
2. Entertainment companion - Guys want a woman who they can go out and have fun with. Almost like a best friend but much more attractive. Find what your man likes to do and learn to enjoy it with him.
3. Peace - The last thing a guy wants to do is come home to an argument. If your man must "deal" with you instead of just being with you, then you're not keeping the peace.
4. Attractive wife - Yes, we are very shallow. If a man doesn't feel physically attracted to his wife, he has trouble being the man she needs. So don't completely let your guard down ladies. Hair rollers and facial creams are cool if we care about you, but we don't want to see it every night.
5. Support - Much like women want men with ambition, men want women who support their hopes and dreams. If you know nothing about what your man does for a living other than the company name he works for, there's a problem. Become interested in what he does and help him where you can.
You can gain all these characteristics by just working to better yourself before your future spouse shows up in your path. Because if you don't better yourself individually, than you can never make it work with another person.
Daniel Abraham is a junior mass communication major and The Towerlight's assistant sports editor.
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